Transforming Anger into Love, Understanding and CreativityTransforming Anger into Love, Understanding and Creativity empowers us to become the Creator of our Lives. It turns us from being a victim of our emotions to becoming the creator of our destiny. We learn in Physics that energy can be changed from one form into another. Fossil fuels can be converted into electrical energy forms. In Chemistry, we learn that vibrational energy from one molecular domain can be transformed into the energy of another molecular domain. Life is a perpetual process of energy transformation. Potential energy becomes kinetic energy when we move. Potential Anger becomes Creative Energy when we choose the power of Transforming Anger. Transforming Anger to Love Anger is an explosive force. Unacknowledged and uncontained, anger can breed resentment,jealousy, defensiveness and illness. Unexpressed, anger is the silent killer. Does this mean we have the right to rage, to trample on others because we have been wronged? Unmediated expression of anger is Violence. It is the reptilian part of us rearing its ugly head.This is the crocodile in us that sees everyone as a stranger, an enemy to be stalked and consumed. We need to be a Steve Irwin, braving the deep, wrestling with our crocodiles, neither to cage nor to kill them, but to harness their power, reworking it through the lens of conscious attention. By managing anger, we can reshape it into something more powerful and healing. We can learn to channel this energy into Love. Transforming Anger into Understanding Seeing yourself in the other person's situation is an effective way to develop a sense of compassion and understanding. Anger is a control mechanism; it prevents us from being fluid. If we can dissolve the boundaries that separate us from our perceived enemies, we will be able to see how similar we all are. We have the same fears, the same desires. This can be the first step towards transforming anger into understanding. Beneath the carefully crafted personality self, beneath that exterior we present to others, we are all the same--yearning to be understood, yearning to be acknowledged and loved. Can you see yourself now in his or her shoes? Looking at "the other" in sympathetic light is often a difficult position to take. However,it does become easier with practice. I've done this on many occasions and it has given me new insight into what turns us from the fresh eager eyes of childhood to despair and pain. It is fear. And the steps outlined below can help you dissolve fear. Try it. These are the steps. 1. Sit in a comfortable chair or lie down in your bed. 2. Make sure that no one else is with you. 3. Give yourself the chance to relax, to let go of past hurts and wrongs. 4. Breathe deeply to the count of four. Maintain this relaxed form of breathing for at least five minutes. 5. Start afresh with a new page. In the comfort of your room, let yourself go and imagine the other as a child--as we all were at one point-- a child. Engage in an imaginal conversation with this child. How does he/she feel? What has happened to this child? 6. Can you see what his or her needs are? Are your own needs different? Are you both two sides of the same coin? 7.If you wish, create an encounter with yourself as a child. What has happened to this child as well? Transforming Anger to Creativity Anger is energy that needs to be expressed. At this stage, when you are no longer at the mercy of your emotions, when you no longer have the desire to explode and turn your situation into a Gaza, you can direct that energy into something more creative, something more powerful. Find something you enjoy doing-- some form of exercise, a cross-country run? a jig-saw puzzle? knitting? painting? cleaning? Anything that gets your hands "dirty,", that gets your creative juices going, allowing you to be present in the moment is perfect. Let go of your inner critic. Paint the masterpiece you've always wanted to paint! Write the poem or story you've always wanted to write! Make the pear and pineapple chutney you've been yearning for. These moments of creative expression are exactly what you need to transform your anger and fear into a higher equivalent, moving it to a higher octave. Let yourself go and SING!!!!! Learning how to handle anger and stress builds resilience. It also allows you and your child to live the process of creation. Our purpose here in this world is to work with what we have, and make it ours through the act of transformation. This is what is known also as the process of Spirituality or Spiritual Development. Art Therapy is also a highly effective and engaging process of coming to terms with anger issues. Find out more about how Art Therapy works
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We can achieve permanent child discipline with love only.All other means and methods are not only ineffective in long run but also harmful for the child behavior.
Creating a way to hang onto family events--soccer practices, birthday parties, anniversaries-- solidifies the meaning of family life. Memory Books are great ways not only to preserve photos but to let memories sink into your psyche. You are not only what you eat but what you remember! Disclaimer: The above information is meant only to inform and should never displace professional consultation.
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