Can Anger in Children be a Sign of Something Serious?Anger in children is often triggered by frustration. They cannot understand their situation and they do not know how to change it. Helpless and unable to verbalize their feelings, they respond with anger. Preschool Tantrums Tantrums in children between 2 and 4 are perfectly normal, especially for children who are unable to express their frustration. Tantrums in this age group reflect a stage of development in the child.They mark the child's understanding of a self separate from the world around him. He is experiencing a sense of personal independence which often conflicts with adult intervention, a situation that will be repeated during his teenage years. Every preschooler has tantrums that are perfectly normal. What can you do when you child has a temper tantrum? There are ways to stop a tantrum in its tracks. The best advice for these strategies come from the voice of experience. Stopping a Temper Tantrum in its Tracks:What to Do When Kids Lose it However, long-lasting and severe tantrums may be red flags for professional and medical interference.The following indicators suggest that the child might need professional help: -tantrums that last more than 30 minutes most of the time -tantrums that involve violence or aggression towards caregiver and others -tantrums that involve self-injuries -frequent tantrum episodes ( 5 or more almost every day) Recent research also suggests that abnormally frequent aggressive behavior in children before age 2 can be a sign of deeper emotional or psychological problems.
Anger in the Older Child (5-12) Episodes of anger and even fighting among older children (5-12) are normal. In fact, these behaviors become good opportunities in a child's experiences for learning self control and forgiveness. Even the anger tantrums of difficult children can come within the normal range. There are children who are born with an uncompromising temperament;these are children who are more often than not finicky, colicky and challenging. But there are other valid causes of anger in children that require attention and perhaps even professional intervention; these are children who are angry because of family separation and child custody issues. Or they may be victims of sexual abuse. Or their anger can be due to rape trauma. Repeated episodes of sustained and explosive anger can signal the need for professional intervention. These severe anger episodes can be a sign of the following serious anger issues:
What are the signs that tell you your child needs professional help? -Anger in the child becomes severe; he tears up his books and breaks things in the house. -The child's behavior poses a danger to himself and others. -Anger in the child is sustained,lasting for an hour or more. -Teachers at your child's school have voiced concern over his anger and behavior. -The child has performed acts of violence against others( like setting fire in school or torturing animals). Anger in Teens Defiant behavior and attitudes are normal in teenagers. However, the following signs may indicate a need for professional attention. -persistent rude and verbally abusive behavior -physical aggression or outbursts against others -physical aggression or outbursts against self -anger turned inward through starvation, avoidance of friends, self-mutilation -school attendance and performance problems What You Can Do about Anger in Children Sometimes the most unsettling anger episodes occur in preschool children. I still remember my 3 year old grandson biting his best friend who had invited him to a birthday party. He bit his friend at the birthday party. We were filled with anguish and embarrassment. Wish we had known then that there are ways to handle these all too common and perfectly normal anger outbursts in preschoolers. Hitting, Biting and Kicking:How to Stop Aggressive Behavior in Young Children Identifying anger that is abnormal is the first step towards recovery. Most episodes of anger in children, however, are normal. There are many strategies that can be use to help your child understand that alternate responses are available to him or her.You can find out more about strategies to manage anger in children in our section on
anger management
and in our section on
transforming anger.
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